It’s important to recognise that both gender and sexuality are fluid, and everyone has the right to understand their identity at their own pace. Don’t judge someone for when they choose to come out: there is no correct way to do this.
If someone tells you about their gender identity or informs you of changes, treat them with kindness. They’ve taken a courageous step. Make sure you’re using their pronouns correctly and apologise if you don’t get it right. You’re on this journey together.
While progress has been made in Aotearoa, our rainbow communities still experience disproportionate levels of exclusion, stigma, and mental distress. It’s important to recognize that prejudice is still very real for a lot of people, and many still feel the emotional effects from struggling with this in their past.
If you or someone you know are in need of help, there are support services available:
- InsideOut works with schools, workplaces and the community to ensure safety for our rainbow communities.
- I’m Local provides free resources as well as a map of support groups for queer and gender diverse people in Aotearoa.
- OutLine provides free peer support services and has been operating for nearly four decades
- Gender Minorities Aotearoa, which is run by and for transgender people, offers links to various types of support across the country.
- Takatāpui.nz provides resources for takatāpui and their whānau.
- Be There is an information hub by the Youth Sector Rainbow Collective.
- Rainbow Youth provides support, information, and advocacy for queer, gender diverse, takatāpui and intersex youth.